All posts filed under: The Mamma Life

This is our section devoted to Motherhood. And all that Mammy-Jammy jazz – Babies, kids, what it means to be a mom, balancing all that, and being an individual throughout it all.

All Or Nothin’

  Goodbye diapers.  Adios, spilt milk.  Peace out temper tantrums and soiled linens.  You will not be missed!  Welcome acne and blemishes.  Oh hello, cellulite and pores.  It is so nice to see you dark circles and sun spots! I cannot wait to get my hands on a face. Five months ago I left my life as a stay-at-home mom to pursue my passion of skin care.  And now I sit here just one week shy of graduating from the school where I found my new love – esthetics. It seems unreal. Before school began I requested an orientation.  It was the very first step of putting my foot in the door.  I needed to bring in my application, take a school tour, and possibly put down my very first payment.  But I couldn’t even find a babysitter.  My husband and I had just moved across the country three months prior; asking family wasn’t an option and we didn’t know anyone.  After weeks of searching, finding a sitter seemed impossible.  I had been on the waitlist …

Interview with Carmella Yeo – Work, Family, and Loving Life

 Carmella is a dear friend of mine, and also a very hardworking woman.  We’ve been friends for 15 years, and she is one of the strongest and most joyful individuals I’ve ever known; she makes no excuses but just gets stuff DONE, and she’s always there for people.  Her heart is as big as her bright smile, and I’m so thankful she agreed to share some of her life with us in this interview!         Introduction: Tell us a little about yourself and your family Well, I am a proud mama of 3– Amaya, 11; Noah Jr., 8; & Alina, 7 months old. Amaya, our firstborn, is in 6th grade (I can’t believe I have a middle schooler!) and is my future veterinarian. She is this feisty and smart young lady with a love for animals that amazes me. I call her the animal whisperer. She is like a walking animal encyclopedia. You can ask her just about anything to do with animals and she will have the answer. Noah Jr., our middle child, …

We don’t care for them because we love them

In The Philosophical Baby, philosopher and psychologist Alison Gopnik says this:  “It’s not so much that we care for children because we love them, as that we love them because we care for them.” I first felt the truth of this statement when my daughter was around two months old. It was a golden October afternoon. My daughter was fussing. For her, it was a clear sign that she needed to nap. Badly. I cradled her. I shushed her. I rocked her. I hummed to her—all in an effort to help her understand that she was tired. I even told her, “Shhh… You’re tired.” Within a few minutes, her eyes fluttered and then closed. I watched her peaceful face for a few moments. God, I love this child, I thought. But a shadow fell on that moment—because I knew that it hadn’t always been that way. The cliché is that a mother’s love is born the moment a child is laid into her arms. For me, there was certainly a euphoria that delivery was over …

Love + Fear: When I Became a Mother

Preface:  This small story is my attempt to convey, in words, the emotions that occur in those first days after having a baby. Yet there are no words that exist to fully elucidate what those feelings are truly like…    From the moment my daughter met the outside world, I was a changed human being. That’s what happens when you give birth for the first time.. you change in a way that is total,  immediate, and undeniably profound.  There are absolutely no words to describe the feeling of looking at, holding, your very first child for the very first time.  It is all of life in a single moment.  It is love, wrapped up in fear, wrapped up in love.   It is transcendent. Those first few days were so intense.  The breastfeeding, the love and the worry.  The physical discomfort. It’s a mixture of the physical alterations of your own body and the mental saturation of processing so many new emotions, all while having this entirely new human being to care for.  Your body …

Wake Up Call: A Working Mom’s Struggle to Juggle

I am your mother.  And I can barely keep a houseplant alive.  And it’s a miracle this mutt I rescued ten years ago is still alive but I think, in fact, it was he that rescued me.  There he is, snoring at the foot of the bed as we two gals cuddle in it, in the early morning hours after your father has left for work.  The miracle mutt.  The miracle baby.  And me.  So maybe I am the miracle.  Yes.  It’s a miracle that I am your mother. This morning in the early AM light that filters through the curtains, I can make out the profile of your perfect face.  It is like my soul silhouetted in soft folds of chubby cherub cheeks and pudgy fingers wrapped around my own. But it is your breath.  Baby’s breath.  It takes my own breath away.  I am so close to you as you sleep.  Closerthanthis.  Nose-to-nose and I drink in every perfect little puff you sigh my way as you slumber.  Baby’s breath more precious than you know.  Because I have lost one before.  A baby whose heart stopped, who never took a breath …

A Pregnant Pause

I was pregnant….  And then, I wasn’t.   All these years later, with a happy and healthy 11-month-old baby girl crawling, drooling and climbing all over me, I’m finally ready to write about what happened … how my husband and I had a miscarriage and marriage within weeks of each other in 2011.       I left during my lunch break.  It was an OBGYN/doctor’s appointment at 10 weeks.  Unfortunately, my husband was out of town, shooting a show on-location outside Chicago.  My “work husband” Jeff watched me rush out of the office and asked “should I drive you?  You sure you don’t want me to go with you?”  I reassured him, “no,” that it was just routine blood work and an ultrasound to hear the heartbeat.  Why I insisted on going alone I still can’t quite answer to this day, years later.  There was Jeff, and any number of other friends, that offered to and gladly would have accompanied me that day.  But for whatever reason, I chose to go by myself. I was driving mid-day west down Sunset, enjoying the California sunshine and …

May for Mothers

We are dedicating the month of May to mothers, and to kick things off we ask you our question of the month:   “What advice would you give to a new mother?” Are you a mother and would love to share some advice?  We want to hear it!  Post your written comments here on the blog, or post them on our Facebook page, or send in a video of yourself with your fabulous mama advice!  We can’t wait to hear all the words of wisdom you have to share.

Mother is Love

Mother. I think the defining characteristic that makes someone a mother isn’t just having birthed a child.  It is a bond, a love, something so deep it is incomprehensible.  It is a caring of and devotion to another human being, it is a giving of oneself to another.  It is love. Mama.  Maybe you are one, or want to be one.  Maybe you aren’t one and never want to be.  But, we all have one. Sometimes a mother is adopted, sometimes a mother is also a father, sometimes a father is a mother. We each have a unique bond with our mother that is wholly our own.  It is a complex, often difficult to understand relationship that lasts our whole lives, even when our mother isn’t present. Because she is and will always be present within us. I don’t think it’s possible to define a mother by any one word, except perhaps the word love.  Because that is the intangible form that a mother represents.  Being love.  Giving love.  In all its complicated ways. I want …

Listen: Mamma Podcast You Will Love

I wasn’t looking to find a “mommy” podcast, but when I stumbled upon Hillary Frank’s radio show called The Longest Shortest Time, I was hooked from the first listen.  It just gets you. It’s comforting in that way that only girlfriends can be..  just talking, sharing, opening up.  The honest, real stuff.  But like, the real real stuff.  This show gets into the deep, dark, nitty-gritty parts of having a baby, the parts that are scary or awkward to talk about, but feel real good to get out. So if you’re a mamma, or about to be one, take a listen.  I think you’ll dig it. Here’s a few of my favorite episodes so far (and one that pissed me off): The New You, It’ll Do If the first story in this episode makes your eyes well up (as it did mine), then the second story might get you laughing. An excerpt from the second story, from conversation between Hillary, who’s daughter is 5, and Jane Marie: Hillary:  “…I haven’t gone back to my pre-pregnancy weight.  …

Surviving Life as a Young Mom

Where do I even begin? First, a major shoutout to Tara for giving me the opportunity to write for this unbelievable place that she has created for women.  A spot that is going to empower women and give us the best knowledge and vibes for the week.. or probably even the month.. who am I kidding, hopefully FOREVER.  I was very nervous to write my first entry for Project:Women.  I mean, the last time I was asked to write I was a senior in high school! However, the difference here is that THIS is personal.  I was actually on someone’s mind to write because my opinions and thoughts want to be heard!  And bonus – this blog is the biggest opportunity to write for the best audience: WOMEN! Those who know me would probably laugh at my line above “..the last time I was asked to write I was a senior in high school” They would say, “Wasn’t that a couple of years ago?” And I would giggle because it totally was!  Actually, it was …